tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-87758046584840047732024-03-05T02:44:24.409-08:00Transitional JourniesA blog dedicated to those who are transitioning regardless of their "label", their position in life, or transitional status.Annahhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00346680606698956481noreply@blogger.comBlogger23125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8775804658484004773.post-68935662066602472082011-08-28T00:22:00.000-07:002011-08-28T00:22:49.287-07:00Drawing Lines in the sands of RestroomsOne of the concerns that trans people face among the myriads of social, ethical, cultural, and religious issues is "I just want to use the bathroom of the gender I identify with."<br />
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In the past twenty years, we have struggled for this and fought tooth and nail for the right to "pee in peace." In many states, this is still a struggle with laws and regulations trying to be passed for or against this privilege.<br />
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Many of those find us using the bathroom of a gender in which we were not biologically born into as an abomination. A sexual perversion or an attempt to sexually attack members of the opposite gender. We find these claims to be absolutely without merit and the bigotry behind it is paramount.<br />
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However, I have recently participated in a discussion on a website in which many transsexuals are doing the very same thing against crossdressers. The rhetoric and arguments they use against crossdressers and the bathroom issue is frighteningly similiar to what someone who is narrow minded would say against the trans community.<br />
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I've heard it all when trans try to reason why crossdressers should not use the bathroom in which they are dressed as. I even heard that CDs are only using the women's bathroom for sexual perversions. I heard a trans saying they will never let their daughter in the same bathroom with a CD for fear of what the CD may be doing in the next stall. Well, for starters, the CD is probably peeing.<br />
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I find it ironic and sad on so many levels how some trans people are doing the very same exact thing that a bigoted society is doing against trans with the restroom issue. The trans community has fought like hell (and still is in some states) to get the right to pee in the bathroom of our gender. And yet, some can easily point the ignorant finger of condemnation against a crossdresser when he or she needs to use the restroom.<br />
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Some trans will praise a CD for having the guts to go out dressed to a department store and then try clothes on in the fitting rooms, but these same trans will condemn those CDs who have the audacity to pee in the female toilet.<br />
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Have we grown this vain? This hypocritical? Where we cannot see the dreaded irony plastered across our foreheads?<br />
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There's an old joke that has lingered about for sometime and it has a hint of truth to it. "What is the difference between a Crossdresser and a Transsexual?" The answer is three years.<br />
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There are some trans when arguing against CDs who uses the bathroom who convienantly forgets that they were once a crossdresser.<br />
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And some of us argue that Lesbians and Gays do not accept us? I think we need to work within our own circles first before crying foul.Annahhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00346680606698956481noreply@blogger.com4tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8775804658484004773.post-83677111851506386952011-07-26T01:27:00.000-07:002011-07-26T01:30:22.269-07:00PrideThe word "Pride" has two really different meanings. On one hand it can convey happiness or being proud and on the other hand it can convey boastfulness or bragging.<br />
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The Bible and other texts that teaches spiritual awareness usually uses pride as a sense of boastfulness or bragging as the word probably meant this in ancient cultures; however due to the "evolution" of the word, other meanings came from it.<br />
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It can be innocently used for example, "I am going to a pride parade" or "I take pride in my job."<br />
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It can be scornfully used for example, "I am better than you" or "I'm in the 'right' religion and you're not."<br />
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In the Transgender world, the word "Pride" can convey both polar meanings as well and I want to focused on the bad things that we can consciously and unconsciously act on when the negative form of pride is used.<br />
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Since transitioning, I have witnessed the Good, the Bad, and the Ugly. It isn't anything uniquely tied to the transgender world but it is tied to any facet of our existence. But since this is a blog for transitioning, I want to focus on transgender.<br />
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We need to be really careful on how we present ourselves to other transgender people...especially the "younger" crowd who are either thinking about transitioning or brand new at it. Since I started to transition, I have noticed some trans who are particularly prideful and boastful. Of course, everyone is not like this but I need to focus on the ones who are.<br />
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If we are not careful we can present ourselves as "trannier than thou" to other people. If you are not familiar with "trannier than thou" it is a phrase that is used towards trans people who have a type of mentality that they are better than other trans. For example, a trans person who has been at this for years may look down on someone who is just starting as if the "new" trans person does not really have a say unless she or he passes certain types of milestones that the prideful trans person has in their mind. This can be anything from being fulltime, passing, having SRS, etc etc.<br />
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There are others who will even state "you're not a real trans because you are not fulltime" or "you're not a real trans because you want to be non operative" Non operative meaning that the person has no desire to have surgery to change their genitals to match their gender identification.<br />
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These examples can be very dangerous to a trans person just starting out. It can damage them or give them second doubts about the way they are planning their transitioning.<br />
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One example was last July of 2010. I asked in a chatroom if I should come out as Annah at school. One person said "no, you'll never pass" She gave me no explanation or any other ways in which I can take steps in order to pass. If it wasn't for my therapist and my close friends telling me this person had no idea what she was talking about, I probably would have taken her ill advice. To this day, I am grateful I did not take that advice and I transitioned anyways. This girl's pride in her accomplishments had blinded herself to the fact that everyone starts from scratch just like she did and everyone deserves the ability to be treated equally.<br />
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Another example was just last week. I was observing another website and a girl who is living part time in her gender was telling the chat room that only girls who were fulltime were true trans girls and the part timers were crossdressers and men. The ironic thing about her conversation was that she is only part time as well but considered herself as real trans...but when it came to everyone else, they were men. She was so prideful in herself that she did not realize how silly her convictions were and how hypocritical they were. Her comments were very damning for new girls listening in and many of them were naturally very confused. Thank goodness her account was promptly banned.<br />
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Pride can happen to anyone if we let our guard down. Everyone has been guilty of it and I have been guilty of it numerous times. The most important thing is to realize the issue at hand and correct them.Annahhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00346680606698956481noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8775804658484004773.post-66783594249184624332011-07-11T21:53:00.000-07:002011-07-11T21:56:10.516-07:00Transgender and DatingWhen it comes to dating we are about as mysterious as the arguments for the pros and cons that comes with it. Some trans people will say dating is easy for them while others will declare it as an impossibility.<br />
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Whatever your own experiences have been, there has been this trend lately that no one can have a meaningful relationship....especially if you identify with as a straight trans female. Now, of course, many people who say this may have had a rough or tragic experience but it does not necessarily mean it is true. On the other hand I know first hand that there are many people who will only date us because they see us as a fetish and not as a real person with flesh and blood and feelings. I've lost count with how many men I dated who wanted to sleep with me on the first date....women too.<br />
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However, you have to look beyond that and realize there are wonderful people who will date you for just you and not because of some type of fetish that they see in you. I have dated some very wonderful men who saw me for the girl I am. I had to look beyond the stereotypical confinds that men want only one thing in order to see the man who is bright, intelligent, funny, and have many wonderful attributes to offer. If we fall into the stereotype trap that all men are scum then we are just as bad as the stereotype that all trans are just freaks and perverts.<br />
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Here are some advice I want to give:<br />
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1. Tell the man (or woman) you are dating that you are trans before you go out with them. To me, not only is this fair for the man to know but it also safe. Many girls think "yeah but do you always tell your dates about a birth defect?" Well, truthfully, Gender and Sexuality is a little more complicated than a cleft palette. Getting this out of the way is much easier for both you and your date. I would even recommend this for post ops. You can live in stealth all you want but when it comes to dating, your past will be discovered eventually. Better to work it out with him now than months or years down the road if you fall in love.<br />
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2. Go to a public place. This is good advice whether you are trans or cis gendered. The first date with someone you do not know real well should always be in public.<br />
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3. Stay away from sex on the first date. I never had a date that worked where sex on the first date occurred. I believe you should discover each others assets and personalities and wants and desires before going right to the bedroom.<br />
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4. No matter how badly one date goes, remember, not everyone is like that!Annahhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00346680606698956481noreply@blogger.com3tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8775804658484004773.post-33274354461808236202011-07-10T22:58:00.000-07:002011-07-10T22:58:28.558-07:00VoiceIf anyone were to ask me "So, what is the most important attributes to blend in as your chosen gender identity." I would respond "Voice, then hair, then face."<br />
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You can be the prettiest thing that ever walked out of transdom, but if your voice fails to emulate your physical features then you will be clocked.<br />
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Some girls are fine not wanting to train their voices and they are fine with getting clocked. However, I really had no desire to get clocked everytime I opened my mouth. So I started to research the topic of voice even before I started to think about transitioning.<br />
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At first, i thought this could only be achieved through some expensive operation where a doctor would re position your voice box. Now, some doctors do this line of work, but i really do not recommend it. I seen too many girls end up talking like Mickey Mouse.<br />
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And if the voice pitch is fixed to a higher pitch, that is still only 10% of the way there...you still have SO many more factors to work on such as resonance, reflection, melodic patterns, etc. Surgery does not fix that.<br />
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I tried "Finding your feminine voice" by Andrea James but it really did not do anything for me. Now, I know some girls that the DVD really helped them. But, for me, it did very little.<br />
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So I started to dive back into the research. Based on what I found, this is what I did...and hopefully it can help you too.<br />
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1. I downloaded a spectograph. This free download will measure the frequency pitch of your voice. For example, a typical man's voice is around 100-170 or so. A female range is around 200-250. I practiced until I at least got the pitch somewhat in working order.<br />
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2. I bought a 15 dollar digital recorder from Target and used that to really hear what I sound like. A digital recorder is painfully honest because it records what you really sound like versus what you think you sound like.<br />
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3. Then to really tie my voice into a nice bow I downloaded Kathe Perez's CDs. If you do not know who Kathe Perez is, she is one of the better TG voice coaches in the US. Seriously, youtube TGvoice and you will see some awesome results.<br />
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I had the awesome opportunity to be interviewed by Kathe last week. Here are the videos in three parts. I do apologize for the voice being out of synch. Kathe had to use a program on skype to record the session and a side effect is the synchness.<br />
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Video one:<br />
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I was given the OK for HRT earlier last year and I could not have been happier. I decided to make a "diary" of things that were changing in me based on the time I had taken HRT.<br />
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First Change:<br />
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The first and immediate change that occurred in my body was my mental well being. The sheer fact of knowing that estrogen was now coursing through my body while testosterone was slowly beginning to dwindle was a very peaceful and blissful state of affairs. While, I am sure estrogen had yet done anything worthwhile in my system with that very first shot, it was the mentality of knowing that I have biologically started my journey.<br />
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Second Change:<br />
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My Emotional state of affairs. I noticed this within the first couple of weeks. When your body starts to deal with the introduction of estrogen as well as the loss of testosterone, you become very emotional. I had started to cry over any and all commercials that was sad or had love in it. It was a unique situation to cry over a Wal Mart commercial considering how much I dislike the company.<br />
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My doctor told me these emotional changes were normal and it is comparable to PMS considering I had the estrogen levels of a few women the day of my shot. After awhile, these symptoms had lessened but I still go through some bouts of crying shortly after my estrogen shot and right before it.<br />
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Third Change:<br />
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The third change I notice was my skin. My skin had become noticeably smoother around 6 to 8 weeks. Some girls will say they notice their skin becoming smoother around 1 week but I think that is actually tied to my first change...which is emotional awareness of yourself changing while there is no actual physical development yet occurring.<br />
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The smoothing of the skin was a wonderful change for me. Not only did it make me feel more feminine with the smooth skin and round features, but it also took years off my appearance. Before my transition, I looked to be around forty years old. My transitional video in two blogs prior to this will show you how older I looked. Testosterone made my skin stretched, wrinkly and just plain nasty. When the layer of fat was introduced to my body, I went from looking like i was 40 to looking like I was in my 20s. My co workers all think I am 25ish. I have no plans on changing their opinion on that! :P<br />
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Fourth Change:<br />
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The fourth change I began to notice was breast pain and itching. This took about 8 weeks for me to really notice it where it really began to hurt. I wont go into the medical details of my past but I had breasts before my transition but they were only A cup.<br />
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Since taken HRT, my breast tissue had grown and now my breasts are around C to D cup. Now, remember, Your mileage may vary (meaning every girl is different). Genetics, family history, medication, etc all has a role to play in your breast development. The general rule of thumb is to wait 2 years while on HRT to see what your full breast potential will be. I know some girls who jumped the gun and got Breast Augmentation a few months into their HRT because they thought they would never grow breasts. Sadly, they say their breasts are abnormal as their breasts continued to grow underneath and around the implants which gives their breasts a weird look.<br />
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Also, while we are on the topic of breasts....and this doesn't necessarily relate to HRT, but please...if you get Breast Augmentation, please get breasts that fit your body type. I've seen so many girls who got those BIG BOOBS put in and now they look ridiculous. They think it will help them "pass" or "blend" in easier but all it is doing is causing attention to themselves and it almost always get them clocked. A good Breast Augmentation plastic surgeon will tell you what Breast Cup is best for your body. Please listen to them!<br />
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Things that HRT will not change (MtF):<br />
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1. HRT will not change any emotional disabilities you may have (MtF and FtM). HRT may help ease some mental discomforts and anxiety issues you have about yourself presenting in the wrong gender but HRT will not cure Bipolar, Manic Depression, and other symptoms. <br />
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Please continue to talk to your therapist if you exhibit these symptoms and please have a realistic approach to HRT and Mental Health.<br />
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2. HRT will not change your voice (MtF). No amount of HRT in the world will change your vocal chords. Your voice will change through practice, practice, practice! This is what I did to change my voice:<br />
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a. Download a Spectogram. It's free and there's a lot of them if you have a PC. If you own a Mac, its very hard to find a free one. A Spectogram measures your voice in frequencies. A male voice is 70-150 mhz or so and a female is usually 175 to 256 mhz. My first step was to get the pitch that high and your program will help you get it there.<br />
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b. Buy a digital recorder. I got mine at Target for 15 dollars. By using a digital recorder, you can practice by hearing your voice and then making adjustments.<br />
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c. Practice your intonation and resonance. This is one of the most important steps for me because this is what gives your voice a feminine quality to it. This takes practice...well your whole voice will take practice. The best thing is to practice practice practice.<br />
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d. Avoid Falsetto. It's not good to sound like Mickey Mouse plus it damages your vocal cords.<br />
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When I did voice training, I used CandiFLA on youtube. She had some really good tutorials on her youtube and they really worked for me....plus she is free.<br />
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If you have money, then I would recommend Kathe Perez. She is a voice coach in Kansas City, MO and she can do personal face to face lessons or through the internet like skype. She is wonderful and you will get results. But she charges.<br />
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3. HRT will not change you! You are in full control of your destiny. While HRT will help develop you into the person who you always knew to be, HRT will not make you into a different person than you are now.<br />
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Here is my video:<br />
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As I transitioned, I was full of happiness and euphoria. However, there came a point in my transition where I collapsed on my bed and wept. It wasn't the process of transitioning or the wrong mix of Hormone Replacement Therapy or some bout of depression that overwhelmed me. Rather, it was the fact that I was mourning the death of myself. Let me explain.<br />
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For the last 34 years of my life I had presented male and naturally I was Rob. Rob had a wonderful life with many wonderful memories. His high school experiences were second to none, his social past was very active and his personality was as such where he only desired to help others. Rob also fathered three of the most wonderful and beautiful children you could ever meet.<br />
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With everything going for him, he had to transition. I had to transition. There was simply no question about it. While I presented as Rob, I was only confining my true self. Transitioning was simply an evolutionary step for me that required courage and faith.<br />
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During my transition I became more and more Annah. My inner self had began to envelope my outer self to the point where any vestiges of Rob was completely gone.It was during this time when I realized Rob was no more. The experiences I went through was the same as mourning the death of someone you were very familiar with.<br />
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I know there are some trans guys and girls who will think "when I transition I will say good riddance to my fake self" however, for me it was not that simple. I did not hate my life as Rob. I simply understood that my gender was incorrect. Living as Rob was like living a lie to myself and others but that isn't to say I hated my prior life.<br />
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So, I gathered pictures of Rob. I went back into my older facebook and downloaded every picture of Rob that I could find and I saved them in a very special folder.<br />
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From time to time, I browse through those photos and you can see them too in my transitional video (the blog prior to this). It is like a little memorial for me. To say goodbye to an old friend and a wonderful father and to greet the beautiful morning sun that comes after the night.<br />
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Sometimes, we get too caught up on trying to convince ourselves that we will never pass (and I really don't like that word "pass" but that's for another blog) that we end up creating our own self dreaded prophecy of either having a very rocky transition or no transition at all!<br />
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You have to try to go beyond your own perceived self image and realize there is a wonderful person trying to get out. Mirrors are a horrible thing when you know you are presenting in the wrong gender and your mind can be an equally horrible thing if you keep on putting yourself down than you will never transition successfully like the other girls and guys out there.<br />
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I remember seeing a website shortly after I made the conscious decision to finally transition. I don't remember the web address and good lord, if I did I would never share it with you all! The website was a very long page of how awful her transition was and is. She talked about the misery, the pain, the loss, the hurt of transitioning. She "tried" to dispel the rumours that transitioning was a positive experience and made it sound like it can only be this gut wrenching "storming the beaches of Normandy with high causality" destination to cross genders.<br />
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The site was so bad I sat there in grief and shock. If I was not rooted in my foundation to transition, that website would have scared me away from being really me for another 15 years!! That poor website author was miserable when she presented male and she was miserable now she was presenting female. I am sure her horrible transition experience had other "co morbid factors" involved.<br />
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There is never a sugar coating to transition. I need to say that. Transitioning will present it's own challenges and possible heartaches but it is no different than any other life changing task you may take on in life. It has its ups and downs and its twists and turns. Sometimes transitioning is like walking on the beach with a lover and other times it is like tripping over that obscure twig as you run away from a zombie hockey wearing ax murderer! Other times transitioning can feel like a curse and other times it can feel like a blessing....like the heavens had parted and Goddess herself has touched your lips.<br />
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The process of transitioning and the method in which you do it is completely up to you and you are in control of it. As long as you are following the good graces of your therapist, there is no wrong way to transition. If you try to do it without any support whatsoever you may end up being another webpage author who writes a 24,000 worded essay of how horrible the transition is.<br />
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You can approach that mirror and say to yourself "I can do this! I deserve it! This is right for me!"<br />
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I recently made a video of my transition and I want to show it here to all of you. I made this video solely on the issue that I want to help girls and guys realize their true potential of transitioning to the gender you were meant to be. If I can do this as a 320 pound bearded man with XX chromosome disorder, anyone can do this if they have the conviction and heart for it!<br />
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I have heard phrases such as "they have thrown us under the bus", "they support us when they want something out of it", "I don't wanna be associated with Gays and Lesbians", etc.<br />
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Ironically, the VAST majority of those who state these comments are male to female transgender lesbians (if you are new to the transgender world, a Male to Female transgender Lesbian is a person who identifies themselves as female but was biologically born a male but is only sexually attracted to women). I find this ironic because the very definition of their status makes them a lesbian. But they are against Lesbians and Gays. If you can figure it out, please comment and let me know because I cannot figure out their logic.<br />
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Another trend I have noticed is that the female to male trans community is not making such a big deal out of the issue. Actually, transmen are probably the most accepting in our community when it comes to having to label a trans or various other topics that transwomen will lose their temper on.<br />
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In my opinion, the gay and lesbian communities have done such a wonderful job of getting their voices heard. They spent decades of blood, sweat, and tears to be recognized as a viable, normal, and equal member of society. In a sense, they have laid out a very nice road for us trans people when it comes to educating others. The last thing we should do is getting on our soap boxes and spouting out stereotypical rhetoric against them.<br />
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For the longest time, transpeople have lived in the closet. Many of us quietly make the transition and once they have transitioned they will go stealth. This is a choice every trans person will have to go through. If you go stealth, then that is wonderful. The problem lies in the issues where those who go stealth will look down upon those transpeople who decide not to go stealth and vice versa. I bring this up because many who are stealth do not want to be associated in the "LGBT" tree and that's fine. However, using reasons such as "I don't like gay and lesbians" or "gays and lesbians hate trans people" is not only unwarranted but it is not factual and is immature at best. When you group every gay and lesbian in this category then you are stereotyping. Once you stereotype gays and lesbians then you are no different than the people who stereotype trans people.<br />
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I have also made a very quick video response regarding this blog and I wanted to share it here with you all. The reason why I did both a video and a written blog was to show how important this subject is to me.<br />
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For some, the term of transgender or transsexual has become so heated that people are leaving trans friendly websites who simply has "transgender" or "transsexual" on their websites. Even if you (as a transgender) do not take a side on this issue, you are still affected if you belong to a website. Chances are you have seen the debate.<br />
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As related to one of my prior blog posts, I have discussed the issue of labeling. My stance is to call yourself whatever you identify with but do not impose your convictions of what is a proper label onto someone else. Basically, it all boils down to respect. Respect others if you disagree with their "label" and hope to be respected for your label in return.<br />
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When it comes to whatever I want to call it, I label myself as a transgender. It isn't just me picking this word because I had to choose something; I picked this to identify with myself because it made the most sense "to me."<br />
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Why do I call myself a transgender versus a transsexual?<br />
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In my opinion, the word "transsexual" in inherently flawed in it's very terminology. If you study into the meaning of the word "transsexual" then it imposes a meaning that one is sexually attracted to someone who crosses a gender identity. Likewise, homosexual imposes a meaning that one is sexually attracted to someone who shares the same sexual identity and heterosexual imposes a meaning that one is sexually attracted to someone of the opposite sexual identity.<br />
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When you look at the term in this manner then one who isn't familiar with "transsexual" would often assume we are transsexual because we are sexually attracted to someone who crosses a gender identity.<br />
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First of all, being trans does not mean anything about ones sexuality. Being trans has everything to do with how you view your gender identity. For example, you can be Male to Female and like women or you can be Female to Male and be sexually attracted to men or both men or women.<br />
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I choose the word "Transgender" because when you study the word itself, then it literally means "one who crosses a gender." This, to me, makes the most sense. This is why I chose to identify myself as transgender.<br />
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Another thing I have noticed about some who do not like the word "transgender" will often follow up with the comments that they do not want to be associated with "those cross dressers who dresses up as a fetish." They believe that many of the issues in which people do not accept us is because the cross dressers ruin it for everyone as the general population believes that we do this as a fetish.<br />
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I am sorry, but I hardly believe that changing one's label from transgender to transsexual or vice versa will change the populations' opinion in this matter. A name change or a name reinforcement does not change the opinions of a population that knows very little of our situations.<br />
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Education causes the change in the populations' opinion; labels do not.<br />
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An example of this is how some vilify the cross dressing community because of our lack of rights to use the gender aligned bathroom of our choice. Stressing one label over another is not going to change a population who may be against us using the bathroom that fits our gender identity. Education changes the people's perception of us. Not us arguing over what label is better than the other.<br />
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The bottom line is use whatever term you wish to describe yourself but don't impose your term on everyone who is trans because not everyone will agree with you and don't use excuses to attack another who uses another term than you because it's what the general population perceives us as.<br />
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For those who are not transitioning or simply do not know what Self Medicating is, let me explain:<br />
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Self Medicating HRT is done when a transgender person takes Hormone Replacement Therapy on their own without a doctor's supervision and/or consent. In theory, when one takes the necessary steps to transition to another gender the following is usually adhered to (according to the standards of transgender care):<br />
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1. Counseling with an approved Psychologist or Psychiatrist.<br />
2. If the Counselor finds you are ready (either mentally or physically or both), then your Doctor will ok the use of HRT. He or She will write a letter approving you to seek out these medical part of your journey.<br />
a. Hormone approval time is different for everyone and is different in various countries. Some therapists require you to be in therapy for however long he or she finds you are ready. Some therapists even require you to live out the Real Life Experience first (living fulltime in your preferred gender).<br />
b. Again, this is different depending on the country you reside in and their own established set of parameters for transgender care.<br />
3. You seek out an Endocrinologist. Typically, you seek out an Endocrinologist who is sympathetic or understands the transgender processes. Some Endocrinologists will not place you under their care. Some Endocrinologists will. It all depends on the doctor.<br />
4. The Endocrinologist will then do a series of blood work and tests to determine if you are a candidate for Hormone Replacement Therapy. The blood work is done primarily for two reasons: 1. To make sure you are healthy enough to do this and 2. To monitor your progress of the newly introduced hormones in your body.<br />
5. While you see your Endocrinologist for ongoing lab tests, he or she will then make changes to your HRT or keep it the same depending on your results.<br />
6. Real Life Experience (RLE) for typically one year at the minimum for SRS letters. Typically, in the United States, you are allowed HRT before doing the RLE. I know in some countries, they require you to do some time of RLE prior to HRT. RLE is extremely important because why you are utterly convinced you know you are the other gender, the RLE will make sure that your feelings are truly gender oriented. RLE is not as simple as it sounds.<br />
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Wearing makeup, skirt, and everything girly out in public can be a real challenge when you do it for the very first time. Many therapists highly recommend you to do this one a part time bases. I, however, went fulltime RLE right off the bat and it was during my first day of classes at Seminary. After the first 50 minutes of our orientation day, I ran into the bathroom and threw up. The social changes you go through when you do your RLE on the first day can be very intense. RLE is a therapist's boot camp way of knowing if you are really serious about this and trust me, if you do RLE and you ease into it, then you are serious.<br />
7. Recommendation for Sexual Reassignment Surgery (SRS or GRS) (or Feminine Facial Surgery or Breast Augmentations). The final step is the letters for the final process of your "medical" aspect of transitioning. Some transgender girls forgo this part because they feel they do not need SRS to feel complete.<br />
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Now I mentioned the entire list because as you can see, the Hormone Replacement Therapy covers steps 1, 2, 3, 4, and 5. My point is, it is a very involving process.<br />
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Your body literally goes through a metamorphic change. Your scent may change, your breast may grow larger, your skin may become smoother, your body features may become more soft and curvy vs hard and rigid and you will go through some emotional changes. Eliminating one hormone in your body that your body is very used to and then introducing an entirely new hormone into your body is a big deal!<br />
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There is so many changes that do go through your body both mentally and physically that I find it to be more wise to seek out the proper steps to be properly medicated versus trying to do it on your own.<br />
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There are many reasons why people self medicate:<br />
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1. They may be married and not "out" to their spouse or partner. Going through this medical steps will be very difficult to hide who you are. Ordering these medications from the internet and shipping it to a PO Box is a lot more easier for them.<br />
2. They may not be able to afford all those necessary steps needed to be legitimately prescribed HRT. Let's face it, in the United States we do not have a very good health plan. You either work for a company that gives it to you at a highly discounted price or you don't have it at all. If you have no medical insurance, seeing a therapist for months will become very expensive.<br />
3. They may have medical insurance but their provider may not cover HRT for transgender people as some insurance companies do not see it as a "necessary medical intervention." Many Endocrinologists will label the diagnoses in a manner where it will be covered but there are those insurance companies that will outright refuse your prescriptions.<br />
4.Some may not want to go through the standards of care but just want to jump right in and start "pill popping."<br />
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I know many girls think "oh i heard it before but I never knew one person who got sick." Well, I knew of three who died and two who have had major strokes. And I have only transitioned for about two years now. So, yes. It does happen. It really isn't a scare tactic to make you see a therapist or doctor.<br />
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Please understand the medical complexities and workings of the drugs you are taking. For example, I knew a girl who was popping in 400mg of Spiro daily. Good lord. 400 mg is overkill and the only thing she was doing was destroying her kidneys because of all the sodium being sucked out of her body at rapid successions. She often complained she had to pee every twenty minutes. Hmm...maybe because she was eating spiro like it was Candy Canes??<br />
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I knew of another girl who was popping in 14 mg of Estrogen daily. Not only is 14mg of Estrogen daily very, very, very expensive (especially without a prescription) but it was also wasteful. Your body does not metabolize 14mg of estrogen like that. The only thing she was doing was destroying her liver and to this day, she does have abnormal liver function.<br />
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Know the right amounts you should be taken. This is probably the most important thing to know.<br />
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Here are some disadvantages to self medicating<br />
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1. You have no idea how effectively it is working in your system. When a doctor does lab tests, he or she does that to make sure you are getting the full effects of HRT. Randomly popping in pills and gauging if its working because your nipples are sore is not a good way to monitor your progress.<br />
2. Its crazy expensive if you don't know what you are doing. For example, a three months prescription of all the HRT you will need typically is about 35 dollars. (depending on your insurance company). I knew some girls who were spending 250 a month (750 dollars every 3 months) on HRT.<br />
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The bulk of those expenses were on massive doses of Progesterone. If you take massive doses of progesterone without medical supervision you minus well be playing Russian roulette. Its about as deadly. As you can see, 35 dollars is a little bit more cheaper than 750 dollars.<br />
3. You have no idea what you are ingesting. True, there are some reputable overseas pharmacy companies you can order from but there are also so many out there that will put fillers in your medication. You may think you are ingesting a pure pill but most of it could be corn starch. Unless you have a lab at home, you simply do not know. The medications you are taking when prescribe comes from FDA approved pharmacy companies that has strict codes of Legislation. India, for self medicators, those codes are not as strict.<br />
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When it comes to self medicating, I will never judge anyone. I will never put anyone down for self medicating or give them "what for." However, you may see me expressing my concern over your safety if you tell me the levels of HRT you are taking or what combinations that may be deadly.<br />
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A friend will always help a friend from doing something from inadvertently hurting themselves. It is not judging but it is only through love that I would try to help someone where if they are self medicating that they need to know how to do it right.<br />
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Please be safe. Please research your drugs and quantities.Annahhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00346680606698956481noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8775804658484004773.post-86287019909899726232011-06-01T12:46:00.000-07:002011-06-02T10:25:46.611-07:00Internet SecuritySo many of us in this day and age takes internet security for granted. We assume that a good virus protector and a firewall is all we need. Sadly, this is further from the truth.<br />
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When you are dealing with your gender identity and exploring the internet looking for answers, it is best to use caution when approaching various websites. I say this from experience because I had a person who had stolen my identity. He had stolen many of my pictures, my name and my background and proceeded to do things in my name.<br />
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The issue was solved but it took my a few months to make things right.<br />
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Here are some tips where you will never go through the nightmare I did.<br />
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1. Make sure you pick a reputable transgender website that has information rich in transgender support, fellowship and education.<br />
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2. Be wary of Websites that promote porn ads. Many sites that also looks like a good source of information may also be a good source of information from undesirables that came from the porn sites that was connected to the "innocent" site you found. I recently turned down a Moderator Position because I discovered in the interview process that the site was in a fellowship of over 175 pornography sites. From the outside the site looked safe and sensible but on the pornography side they displayed banners of the transgender website so that "you can hook up with a shemale." The interviewing moderator said they get paid to be connected to all these websites because they use it as an outreach program for admirers to teach them the proper way of being with a transgender woman. The argument did not convince me in the slightest.<br />
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3. Make sure the website is password protected! This is very important. Without a password protected website where registering is not necessary, this can become a haven for people who have other nefarious interests in mind. The most simple registration process can eliminate many people who has anything in mind but to "learn" about us. Which brings me to a similar point:<br />
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4. The more involving the registration process to become a member of the website, the better. For example, if you have to fill out a lengthy page and have to answer questions about yourself then don't grumble! This is actually a good thing. From my experience, these websites are the most successful.<br />
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Finally, when I was suffering from identity theft I was given a website. This website is a miracle come true and it really works. The site is a reverse image search engine. For example, if you upload a picture on this site it will search out and give a list of other sites who shares the same exact picture. This comes in handy when you want to periodically check to see if someone is using your pics. Since I have used this site, I have found my pics on flickr and a couple of other sites I do not wish to share where non transgender people had stolen my pics to fulfill a fantasy by showing others on the internet they are trans.<br />
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Also to note about tin eye: if your pics are behind password protected websites such as facebook, passworded transgender sites, etc., they will not show up. The program isn't perfect but it is certainly a step in the right direction.<br />
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The website is called Tin Eye and <a href="http://www.tineye.com/">can be found here </a><br />
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Be safe out there!Annahhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00346680606698956481noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8775804658484004773.post-9349869337697959242011-05-31T22:09:00.000-07:002011-05-31T22:16:46.879-07:00Transgender BullyingThere was a saying I learned in undergraduate school and that is: "For every ten people who love you, three will hate you."<br />
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While I do not know who specifically coined that phrase or if it is even statistically accurate, it does has some hint of truth behind it.<br />
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I am a big advocate for educating people about transgender people. I am also a big advocate for treating every member of the transgender umbrella (Crossdressers, Transsexual, GenderQueer, BiGender, GenderBlender, etc etc) with the same equal respect as every other human being on the face of this earth. The only group of people that I have very little respect for is the Conservative Christian Church, but this is a fault of my own and I am currently working towards reconciliation with them.<br />
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Because I promote such a presence of equal standards among all of our brothers and sisters in the transgender arena, I am sometimes hated for it.Thank God I can only count one who really has it in for me (besides the stalker I once had....but that is for another blog entry!) but sometimes just one can be loud enough.<br />
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Today I have been a subject of a character assassination. There is a blog floating in the cyber stratosphere that a transgender woman wrote about me that is anything but pleasant. With that said, I will not provide you all with her link. The reason is being three fold: 1. She does not deserve the traffic to her blog site because it only promotes hatred. Every single one of her blogs is about hating someone or some website that are actually LGBT allies or LGBT themselves 2. I wont stoop to her level of immaturity and 3. I firmly believe she has the mental capacity of literally hurting someone; namely me.<br />
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Which brings me to my second point: do not believe everything you hear floating around in cyber space. I always have a saying: get two sides of a story before forming your opinion. Not only is it the civil thing to do but you will garnish respect for actually not choosing a side so blindly. Now of course, you can say that of me by the sheer principle that I brought her blog up but I did not give you all her name because she is not here to defend herself.<br />
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Transgender bullying is not only an issue among those who hate anything not considered "heterosexual" but it is also an issue among our own. Other transgender may not see eye to eye and then resort to bullying. Some will be jealous and then resort to bullying or others do it just to get attention.<br />
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If you are transgender, do that right thing. Practice respect. No matter how different one transgender may seem to you, always practice respect. We need to hold each other up and comfort one another during our struggles because we all know being transgender is not as easy as a walk in the park. The last thing we need to do is attack each other.<br />
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I am a big believer when it comes to NOT believing this theory. Some will argue that (take transgender girls for example) the introduction of estrogen into their bodies will cause them to become sexually attractive to men and more so as their testosterone levels diminishes.<br />
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There are many things about that argument that does not follow the path of realigning your sexual orientation. As I pointed out in earlier posts, sexual orientation is different than gender identity.<br />
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If HRT could change sexual orientation then so many conservative religious affiliations would have taken advantage of HRT at their many "ungay camps." These camps are typically run by conservative religious groups to "cure homosexuality." It doesn't work. Sadly, so many gay, lesbian, and transgender kids are forced into these camps to be cured when there is nothing wrong with them. Scientific evidence also shows that these camps do not work and it has been recently disclosed that one of the biggest creator of these camps and founding member of Family Research Council (an anti gay group), George Alan Rekers, is gay himself. But will not admit it even through he hires boys to have sex with him on RentBoy.com (a gay prostitute website).<br />
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One would think if HRT could change one's sexual orientation, these Christian organizations would have taken advantage of it. For example, they would introduce more testosterone in a gay boy or more estrogen in a lesbian female.<br />
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I believe HRT does many things to you on a biological level and it also eases you on a mental level. I believe that when someone takes HRT, they become more comfortable with themselves to the point where they are not afraid to explore a side of their sexuality they never thought possible. HRT can make you feel better about yourself and your self image and this can result into dating a gender you would not have in the past. I also believe that if you all of the sudden like men because of HRT, it isn't the HRT that caused this but your ability to break out of your pre transitional self image.Annahhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00346680606698956481noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8775804658484004773.post-91942364744577824222011-05-28T18:10:00.000-07:002011-06-06T10:30:12.520-07:00The death of a friendEarlier this week i had been shocked over the death of a wonderful friend of mine. Like any tragedy, it came about unexpectedly and this one came without warning.<br />
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As I have immersed myself in the transgender community I have been painfully made aware just how common suicide is among our group. Before I became involved in the transgender community, I had two friends commit suicide in high school. In less than a year, I have lost four other friends to this act.<br />
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In terms of statistics, suicide among transgender people are really all over the place. One statistic has transgender suicide attempts at 50% before their 20th birthday and non transgender people, the rate is 3 per 100,000 people (The National Center for Suicide Prevention).<br />
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The Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration has the suicide rate of the transgender population at 31 to 50%. Meaning, one out of every two transgender people you have met has tried to kill themselves or will be "successful" in their attempt.<br />
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Some doctors state that transgender mortality rates is between 60 and 70% (Dr. K Zucker and Blanchard). These mortality rates includes suicide and victims of a hate crime. It is a pretty sobering statistic (if indeed true) that I only have a 30% chance of dying a natural death as an elderly woman.<br />
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To put this into comparison, over 10 million US Soldiers participated in WW2. Out of the 10 million US Soldiers who fought, 295,000 were killed. Based on those statistics, you had a 67% chance of surviving as a US Soldier in WW2. As a transgender person, you only have a 40 to 30% chance of surviving until a natural death.<br />
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These numbers are not forever hammered and etched into marble. They can be changed and those numbers can be lessen.<br />
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We must be more proactive with ourselves and with our transgender brothers and sisters. I have lost four friends who were transgender. It is a real statistic.<br />
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Educating the population about us is the first good step. Educating the transgender population that we can get through this no matter how dark it is now is a first good step. However, these steps will be long and difficult but it can be done.<br />
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Every life, regardless of their sexual orientation, gender identity, religion, ethnicity, etc., is a valuable and special life. Each life branches out and touches those that they love and those who love them in return. No life is useless and all life is sacred.<br />
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If you are struggling and you feel the urge to give up, please call the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1.800.273.8255 or go to the emergency room. Despite what you may think, there are those who do care for you greatly.Annahhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00346680606698956481noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8775804658484004773.post-48548856287389178702011-05-28T00:21:00.000-07:002011-05-28T00:45:22.325-07:00Religion and the Queer FolksDuring my journeys as a person of religious faith I have encountered the Good, the Bad, and the Ugly. For the better part of my younger religious journey I had been heavily discipled in the perspectives that being gay or lesbian was laced in sinful practice. Transgender people were not immune either.<br />
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I struggled with this for a great amount of time shortly after my "conversion experience" in the Christian church. I became a Christian in the Assemblies of God church where I was taught heavily the blacks and whites of Biblical Interpretation. Shades of grey were dismissed as wild imaginations of the sinful flesh trying to beat back the yearning spiritual soul that wanted only sanctification.<br />
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Being a young Christian and at the age of 18, I was very impressionable. I believed everything that was taught to me. As I entered Valley Forge Christian College, I desired to learn more what my Pastor could not teach me.<br />
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It was there where my world was shaken again. Before I had became a Christian, I was pro choice, pro feminist, and I knew I was not a boy (but had not yet known the term of transgender in which I could identify myself). During my second semester, these feelings started to scream from within the deep recesses of my soul. I had buried my convictions in the rose smelling dirt and concrete of a "Christian Lifestyle." Questions started to well up and many of the scriptures I was taught that condemned homosexuality or anything contrary to a heterosexual lifestyle started to become greys rather than black and whites.<br />
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Monday through Friday I would be the good conservative christian "boy" and attend the college chapel services while Saturday and Sunday I would drive many miles away from the college to date other guys my age. There was one thing I did manage to keep out of all of this mess and that was my virginity. I still had convictions that was to be for someone incredibly special and was to only be taken away on my wedding night.<br />
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Needless to say the internal torment was great.<br />
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Throughout my years of ministry, I had a heart for the LGBT community. Not a heart to "save" the LGBT community but a heart of knowing I was one of their sisters. And yet, I was grieved beyond comprehension because I was part of growing number of conservative churches who daily publicly condemned the LGBT community.<br />
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I was also married to my sweetheart who was very conservative. I kept my transgender identity from her and from myself. I had made a sacrifice to kill a part of myself in order to make her happy. In all honesty, she did not deserve this mess I was part of. I remained faithful to her and it was only after our divorce that I made the decision to transition to female.<br />
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As I attend Lancaster Theological Seminary, I am refreshed to know there is a very large progressive christian community who knows that the LGBT are not pitiful sinners but equal partners of this earth shared by everyone.<br />
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I branched out my faith as well. I picked up my Pagan passions that I had prior to my Christian conversion. Yes. I am a witch. I am also interfaith. I believe in truth of all the religions that our Creator had given to us. A person once asked a member of an Ecumenical Council "Why did a Creator create such a diversity of religion?" The man replied, "So that we must learn to understand one another despite the diversity. We are one on this planet."<br />
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I still embrace the Christian theology of Jesus as the Son of God but I also embrace my Goddess who represents the moon and my God who represents the Sun. I find harmony in this light as I find harmony in all things that try to live peacefully with one another.<br />
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When I was part of the conservative Christian movement, I was led to believe that LGBT and Holiness cannot occupy the same body. Now, I am part of the progressive Christian movement that believes LGBT and holiness not only compliments one another but is the image of diversity to bring us together as humanity just as religion in all its diversity is designed to bring us all together.<br />
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If you are transgender and you feel tied to Christianity, I implore you to seek out churches who will not only accept you but will embrace you as an important member of their congregation. There are so many churches (and many more everyday) out there. All you need to do is look.<br />
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If you are pagan, do not be afraid to explore this spiritual part of your life. It is a wonderful and beautiful path to walk down.<br />
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"Being religious" and "being Queer" is not an oxymoron.Annahhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00346680606698956481noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8775804658484004773.post-69952516207515578882011-05-27T21:52:00.000-07:002011-05-27T21:52:00.417-07:00Transgender MelancholinessIt always seems like whenever someone meets me and gets to know me in person and then finds out later that I am transgender the usual comment is "wow, you're not like the other transgender girls that I have met."<br />
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Well, first of all, I thought we were kinda a rarity in the terms of the whole straight, lesbian, gay, bi sexual worlds so hearing that comment usually always have me thinking "wow, you met more transgender people in person than I have!" I don't think we are as rare as one would think but I haven't really met face to face many transgender people. But that is beside the point.<br />
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The second thing I usually think of is "why do you say that? Are we all kinda crazy from the encounters you have had?"<br />
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Personally, I really don't know what I think about that topic of craziness and transgender people. To be honest, I think when it comes to mental stability, we are just like any other person. You have those who are on the straight and narrow, you have those who are not and you have those in between. Now, I have not met many transgender girls "in real life" but I know many online and they are pretty much on the same level as the rest of society.<br />
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However, I do have to say that we probably wrestle with depression a helluva lot more than your typical "straight soccer mom." We are born in the wrong body. That has to put our brains in the blender at some point in our lives.<br />
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When it comes to Gender Identity Dysphoria (GID), I can safely say that is all but a distant memory to me since I transitioned (for those who do not know what GID is, it is an unnerving pain in the ass depression that always chips away at your resolve because you are not presenting in the gender you know you were meant to be). Thank goddess that issue has been resolved for me. I am not out of the boat yet.<br />
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I still suffer from bouts of melancholiness. Not depression really....melancholy. It will always be with me until I a reunited with my children. I lost all three one day without warning because my ex became involved in a sect of a religion that promoted hate more than love and charity. The last time I had seen my three children (ages 2, 7, and 9) was Wednesday night, August 19, 2009. In a snap of a finger, they were gone. My gender therapists had told me that the pain is identical of a parent loosing three of their children through a death because I have not seen, nor heard from them since that Wednesday night. Not one day goes by where I do not collapse on my bed or sofa and weep for them. Sure, I know they are still alive but the pain of not holding them, kissing them, telling them their bedtime stories, sharing in their lives is the same intolerable pain. The more frustrating thing is the fact that they have no idea that their daddy is now one of their mommies. When the time do come to pass where I will be able to see them, they may be young adults and I can only pray that they did not fall down the same destructive spiritual path their biological mother went down.<br />
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When I first started to transition, the excitement of me becoming the woman I was suppose to be had masked the grief loosing my children but as I have become used to being a woman that pain for my children grows only stronger.<br />
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I feel blessed that I do not suffer from many of the mental ailments that my transgender brothers and sisters face because if I had to go through those ailments on top of the grief for my children, I simply do not know how I would respond.<br />
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So, I may seem like the "normal" transgender girl so many of my friends are not used to seeing but deep down inside I still ache and hurt. It may not be manic depression, bi polar disorder, chronic fatigue syndrome or whatever but I still hurt and my soul is terribly empty and will remain so until I can kiss my children again.<br />
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We all go through crap in life. If we didn't, we would not be human. Some have heavier crosses to bear than others but in end, pain hurts no matter what form pain manifests in.Annahhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00346680606698956481noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8775804658484004773.post-27365040240341598032011-05-24T18:05:00.000-07:002011-05-25T05:38:34.990-07:00Musa Acuminata? Musa Balbisiana? Bananas?The almighty label. What do we call it? What should we call it? Should the label change? What if I like to say Banana more than Musa Acuminata and what if someone gets offended if I did not use the label Musa Balbisiana? I don't want to offend but at the same time, I don't know what to call it!<br />
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This has been a typical response from our transgender allies when it comes to our "label" and they have every right to be confused because we, as transgender people, cannot even make up our own minds on what label offends us and what does not!<br />
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I am talking about the growing trend of transgender people in our circles trying to force one label over another or even having no label at all! Confused? I am. And I'm transgender!<br />
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The debate that has been brewing back and forth is whether or not to label a transgender (who is going through the therapy steps of transitioning) a transsexual or a transgender. Some activists will scream "transsexual cause a transgender is a crossdresser and I don't wanna be associated with those people!" and some will scream "transgender because the word transsexual is actually incorrect to describe our gender identity!"<br />
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The LGBT non-profits organizations is starting to feel the heat too. For example, GLAAD had been pressured into renaming their label "transsexual" because "transgender" stood for "fake women who like their penis." The HRC was pressured into putting "transgender" in their brochures on how to talk to a transgender person because transgenders will take great offense to the word transsexual as it connotates an era of drag queens and transvestites (oh....and transvestites is a no no for the crossdressing gals. It's an outdated label).<br />
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As you browse through the sites of LGBT organizations you will see the labels change depending on which person gave them hell for what label. It can be very frustrating for these organizations who only want to promote education of LGBT to the masses when they get criticized for a simple label. It is like a baby screaming at it's mother about which diaper to use. The mother can just leave you naked because where would you be then? Poop everywhere!<br />
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Studies have shown that allies of transgender people are afraid to talk to transgenders simply because they are afraid of offending the transgender. Frankly, I cannot blame the ally for feeling this way. I am transgender myself and I often think before I ask a question to another transgender. Studies have also shown that transgender women (male to female.....oh and male to female can also be construed as offensive since we were never male to begin with) take more offense to the labeling than transgender men (female to male).<br />
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Sticking to labels like they are ancient religious doctrine can get you in trouble. At first you may be sympathetic to why you stand on one label and not others but I have seen first hand transgender people become more and "elitist" as they stick to their label and only their label. The mentality can develop where one transgender could think another transgender is a "fake" (a person who thinks they are a transgender but they are only a crossdresser who hopes to achieve the immortal pedestal of the real transgender....according to the "elistist"...I swear, I am not making this up).<br />
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Here's an idea. Continue to use whatever label you have chosen for yourself but have the civility to understand that other transgender may want to use a different label that you may not agree with. Who cares if someone wants to be labeled as:<br />
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Transgender<br />
Transsexual<br />
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Pre Op/Post Op<br />
Non Op<br />
Tgirl<br />
Tboy<br />
Female<br />
Male<br />
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The most important thing you need to worry about is yourself. Worrying, arguing, and fighting over labels will do absolutely nothing but give you high blood pressure and I think we ALL can agree no one wants that!Annahhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00346680606698956481noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8775804658484004773.post-78589317615084607592011-05-24T13:27:00.000-07:002011-05-24T18:58:10.737-07:00Social activism based on respect and not on fear mongering<div class="post entry-content ">I have noticed an uneasy trend among the transgender community. I am not saying it is everywhere and it is with every transgender person but it is something that I have been seeing more of and that is the "over bearing of our rights and ideals" against people who do not deserve to be attacked.<br />
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I am an activist and I volunteer with many humanitarian not for profits to push equality for all LGBT people. With that said, there is a right way of going about doing this and there is a wrong way.</div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEj77DmRpvO3mDBaKmNgwmfmsR5pqlxlipgpexe-QSfCaNgbWL1clVTMeN_xUITqcB4yo0ypeGH5lBXTYBeBOZEj1xUE3GOHC6x41PVY055WwE5AtPMgpKKtDW57ezdfHSFAnqE1h-7JVBoA/s1600/canstock5616222.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEj77DmRpvO3mDBaKmNgwmfmsR5pqlxlipgpexe-QSfCaNgbWL1clVTMeN_xUITqcB4yo0ypeGH5lBXTYBeBOZEj1xUE3GOHC6x41PVY055WwE5AtPMgpKKtDW57ezdfHSFAnqE1h-7JVBoA/s1600/canstock5616222.jpg" /></a></div><div class="post entry-content "><br />
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The wrong way is to send angry letters to everyone "you heard" have been unfair to us. Please, before sending out angry letter or emails to someone you "heard about" on the Internet, make SURE you get BOTH sides of the story.</div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjW90EmfhBgDtpWxwqfvX_LN2mGLxZyxgxIo-px3HsNZRMr8-NNTiChs0rvAaTc_WANczM82izhDuEh4sJdY7ApQ8swiGvKdB6tnRa8iwXH9KcKvphRVGJZTP93la2JuTDMvgXg1g-EchyL/s1600/marketing-debate.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" height="240" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjW90EmfhBgDtpWxwqfvX_LN2mGLxZyxgxIo-px3HsNZRMr8-NNTiChs0rvAaTc_WANczM82izhDuEh4sJdY7ApQ8swiGvKdB6tnRa8iwXH9KcKvphRVGJZTP93la2JuTDMvgXg1g-EchyL/s320/marketing-debate.jpg" width="320" /></a></div><div class="post entry-content "><br />
When you approach an issue with respect, you will more than likely get respect in return. If you act out in anger against someone you do not know the whole picture of, you certainly will not create change. Take the Christian Church and LGBT for example. More and more churches are accepting and embracing anyone who is Lesbian, Gay Bisexual, Transgender, etc. Each year, dozens of more churches are embracing us and each year more Denominations are doing likewise.<br />
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This was not done because a bunch of angry LGBT people wrote angry letters to church leaders. Rather, we used our abilities to approach them in a respectable manner and to show them various Bible transliterations to show that LGBT issues are not a sin. As a result, you see acceptance in an area where you would least likely see acceptance. I am a living example of this. I am an out of the closet full time TG girl who goes to a Christian Seminary. Twenty years ago, this would have been impossible.<br />
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Another important point is, teach through education and not through angry emails. If someone had said something wrong, don't go off on them. More than likely they are ignorant of the issue and even if they are being biased, you can still educate them without stooping down to their level.<br />
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Martin Luther King, Jr did plenty of activism but he did not resort in low balling and the such. He showed his vision through respect and integrity and so many of his dreams have been fulfilled. </div>Annahhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00346680606698956481noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8775804658484004773.post-65003095104373601022011-05-24T11:02:00.000-07:002011-05-24T18:59:24.610-07:00Christianity and the TransgenderFor many of us, it seems that we as Transgender people and Christianity mixes just as well as oil and water. Many of us has been hurt, oppressed, or abused by the Christian Church. So many of us had sadly never transitioned to our preferred gender because of the social stigmas placed upon us by the Church. I was the same way.<br />
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I had gone to an Assemblies of God Bible College and had pastored in a number of Conservative Christian Churches. While I ministered to those in my churches, I had always kept my true identity hidden; very hidden. While I never publicly followed the conservative rhetoric of the condemnation of the LGBT (Lesbian, Gay, Bi Sexual and Transgender), I cringed and died a little inside everytime someone who professed love in Christ could be so condemning of anyone who did not fit their mold of an ideal Christian follower.<br />
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After my ex had left me and taken my children from way in the name of Jesus, I had given up all hope of religion. It would have been so easy for me to just be an Atheist but I knew in my heart that I believed in a Creator. Now, I had to restart my journey to figure out if the Creator I had worshipped was only in my head, did not exist or really was this God "who hated fags."<br />
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I was in dire search of so many things in my life two years ago. Not only was I trying to rediscover who I truly am, but I needed to know if there was something out there that was bigger than anything that held any creadible belief that a higher power did exist.<br />
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As I searched for new job opportunities, the vocation of Ministry was last on my list. I was in a period of transition from male to female and everything that I knew about Christianity made this dream about as obtainable as me winning the Gold Medal in the Olympic Figure Skating sport.<br />
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However, I refused to give up.<br />
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I had been about 5 months into my transition when I discovered a website hosted by the United Church of Christ and they had a page entirely devoted to LGBT causes. Never in my life have I seen such a site. I had always knew about the issues with the Episcopal Churches accepting LGBT but I had always heard it through the lips of a Conservative Christian believer and it was never uplifting.<br />
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After finding a seminary and applying, I had been accepted to Lancaster Theological Seminary as Annah. My first day as Annah was actually the first day of classes. I received nothing but overwhelming support from these Christian students, faculty, and administration.<br />
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During my time here, my theological perspectives had become much more interfaith and I learned something valuable: there was so many churches that embrace LGBT people. My eyes had been so shielded by the Conservative Church that any notion of Progressive Churches that embraced "queer" people was just a dream. It seems, my dreams had come true.<br />
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If you are struggling with you own issues in regards to Christianity and your own sexuality or gender orientation, I urge you to not throw in the towel just yet. Many churches are embracing us. One girl I had talked to said she lived in an area of Michigan where she knew no churches would accept her. After literally just 2 minutes of searching, I found a church that was open and affirming to LGBT people. So never give up. There are more churches that are not close minded than you think!<br />
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To get you started, the United Church of Christ, the Metropolitan Community Church, Evangelical Lutheran Churches of America, the Episcopal Church, The Unitarian Universalist Churches, the Disciples of Christ, Progressive Mennonite Churches, The United Methodist are close to passing a clergy law to allow LGBT clergy to be ordained, Presbyterian Church USA, many Quakers, Unification Church, United Church of Canada, Unity School of Christianity and Waldensian churches embraces and ordains LGBT people.<br />
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If you are other faiths (these faiths embraces LGBT):<br />
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Almost all Earth Based religions such as Heathenism, Wiccan, Druidism, Neo Paganism all embrace LGBT people.<br />
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Jewish:<br />
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Conservative and Reformed Judaism all embrace LGBT<br />
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Islam:<br />
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Sufi and New Nation of Islam embraces LGBT<br />
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Buddism<br />
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Our western "concept of LGBT" is accepted by Hindus<br />
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There are so many more out there!<br />
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Just remember, if you think all hope is lost because God "hates queer people" please know that these churches are just one viewpoint. There are so many religious institutions that embrace us for who we are and not what Levitical law we uphold.Annahhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00346680606698956481noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8775804658484004773.post-67484163563396632442011-05-24T10:30:00.000-07:002011-05-24T19:00:21.577-07:00A story I shared with my Therapist last yearIt was one of my last sessions with her and we sat facing each other in her office and she asked me her last question.<br />
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"Have you ever regretted being a male...when you look back are there any regrets?"<br />
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I told her "no, I never had any regrets presenting male."<br />
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I then explained my answer to her.<br />
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"I understand some girls really hated being male and this was something they had to do to transition. It was life or death. For them that is their burden and I respect that and in some ways I know what they are going through but to be honest I never hated it."<br />
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"Really?" She asked. "Explain more"<br />
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"well, I see my life in terms of a Buddhist monk. A Buddhist monk knows without a shadow of a doubt that he or she does not belong in this transitory world. The life after this world is their ultimate achievement in which they know they are enlightened and can pass on to Nirvana in which their soul becomes part of the greater universal consciousness. To a Buddhist Monk or follower there is no greatest achievement to have.<br />
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However, they know they live in this world right now and they made peace that they are here for however long of a time that their bodies allow them to remain. They make the best of it. The meditate, pray, involve themselves in helping others, and they assist the poor or those who cannot take care of themselves. While they passionately know this world isn't the ultimate answer, they also understand that they belong to the world for whatever time they have.<br />
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In terms of me being male and with reflection, I see those traits in my life. I knew without a shadow of a doubt I did not belong in this body. I made the best of it. I had three beautiful children and I got to see what is was like to live a life in a male gender under these male social roles. With that said, I knew this was only a transitory life for me and being female was the ultimate goal for my direction.<br />
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When I transition, I will take the appreciations and gifts I had learned and experienced as a male to heart but as a female, only will my true sense of purpose can be realized. I have no regrets. I can only look forward and immerse myself in the dreams that have come true."<br />
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I wanted to share that in case others had the same reflections.Annahhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00346680606698956481noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8775804658484004773.post-62592685943771614922011-05-24T10:23:00.001-07:002011-05-24T19:01:14.400-07:00Sexuality ClassThis week we have a few classes covering the topic of transgenderism. While the first class dealt with the issues, terms, and definitions of transgender and me and a transguy answered questions, the second class spoke about other factors regarding the transgender arena.<br />
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Two discussions that really got my attention was the negativity about us being included in the "LGBT" acronym an the other discussion was about how our terminology changes, literally, month after month or where we do not agree on certain issues as transgender people.<br />
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The first being the "LGBT" acronym. It was suggested that some transgender people who do not want to be associated with this acronym do so because of the social negative outlook on gay and lesbian people and because they have had bad experiences with the gay or lesbian population. It was suggested that a good amount of transgender girls have identified as lesbian but still would not want to be included in the LGBT spectrum. Being associated as a gay or lesbian is something they don't want even though they identify as a lesbian if they date another female. Statistics also show that transgender female are more passionate about not being part of the LGBT spectrum than transgender males. Some people would contribute this as transgender girls not wanting to be labeled anything that would alienate themselves from people that relationships have already been strained by coming out as transgender. Studies have also shown that Straight transgender females have a more accepting view of the LGBT acronym than Lesbian transgender females.<br />
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The second viewpoint is the way we change the acceptance of certain words that identify the transsexual or transgender. Allies have discussed how confusion it is when they approach a transgender person because one transgender person would be offended if the Allie called them transgender and not transsexual; others will be offended if an Allie called them a transsexual and not a transgender and others would be offended if they were called anything but female. Also, it was shown that transgender females have a more "passionate mentality" of their label than a transgender male. The most recent source of this evidence is from Chaz Bono's documentary. While the allies thought that Chaz's documentary was incredibly successful in promoting transgender equality and information, many transgender people went back and forth about how much of a success he was in his documentary while others thought it was an utter failure.Annahhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00346680606698956481noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8775804658484004773.post-11114162344258083322011-05-22T15:53:00.000-07:002011-05-24T19:02:04.404-07:00Fundamentalist Social ActivistsWe had a discussion at my seminary earlier this week in one of my classes regarding fundamentalism and the various perspectives of fundamentalism.<br />
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If you aren't familiar with the term fundamentalism, it basically has roots in a theological meaning where someone takes a certain religious book word by word as if it actually occured. In terms of a social situation, this ties into many other agendas when fundamentalism is adhered to it (such as same sex marriage, homosexuality, etc etc).<br />
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However, the term fundamentalism has evolved into other areas when describing an action or a motive in which you take way beyond the level of effectiveness and start to stamp black and white requirements on an issue versus having it in blends on grays. It also boils down to "you are wrong and I am right" without any mediation in between.<br />
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My Seminary is very big on social justice. I mean, it has to be considering we are one of very few Seminaries who openly embrace LGBT people, perform same sex unions, participates in race against racism and other events. However, we had a discussion on when Social Justice activities simply goes to far.<br />
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When we fight for our rights as human beings and to have people recognize our diversity as a valuable standard in which we are human beings that is a wonderful thing to fight for. However, you can take it too far.<br />
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Writing letters, calling up people, and threatening them with their jobs because something "appears" to be out of place when you do not investigate both sides of the story is not social justice.<br />
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One has to be very careful not to "give them hell" on every single possible issue that arises because that can be worked against us. While it is very true, we need our rights we also need to be compassionate enough to know when it is a time to fight and a time to realize the situation isn't as bad as it sounds.<br />
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I've seen some people become so obsessed about "giving people what for" that their angry letters become easily dismissed. It's easy to whine and complain. It actually takes virtue to meet on a neutral setting and discuss the issues appropriately.<br />
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If we are task with educating people about who we are as a people and as part of a human race, it is better to approach people who do not agree with respect and to let them know who were are. There is a time and a place to fight, but wanting people to mail letters to every Tom, Dick, and Harry when we only know one side of the issue is not only ineffective but it does not put us in a good light when there are others trying to educate them about who we are in a delicate but firm manner.<br />
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Our professor coined it ""born again fundamental social justicist."Annahhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00346680606698956481noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8775804658484004773.post-31220426256742785582010-05-11T21:41:00.000-07:002010-05-11T21:46:39.986-07:00My Journey. My First BlogMy journey and my transition. It all was here all along. Since I was little. Since I was a child I always knew. I always wondered why I wasn't who I was. Why was I born like this? Why wasn't I right?<div><br /></div><div>I knew since I was young. My very first cognitive memory was of me wondering why I was not a girl on the outside.</div><div><br /></div><div>I tried everything in my power to hide this. I was scared because it didn't take much intelligence to know I was different but I remained scared.</div><div><br /></div><div>I hide within my ownself.</div><div><br /></div><div>I started my transition in January of 2010. It is now May. I have seen a wonderful Psychiatrist for two months now, have been on hormone replacement therapy over a month ago and beginning to feel right for the first time in years.</div><div><br /></div><div>Ive been accepted into Seminary. All is well. So far. They know I am a tgirl and in transition and they are fine with it.</div><div><br /></div><div>No more excuses. I need to finish this. I need to be me for now on.</div><div><br /></div><div><br /></div>Annahhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00346680606698956481noreply@blogger.com0