Drawing Lines in the sands of Restrooms

One of the concerns that trans people face among the myriads of social, ethical, cultural, and religious issues is "I just want to use the bathroom of the gender I identify with."

In the past twenty years, we have struggled for this and fought tooth and nail for the right to "pee in peace." In many states, this is still a struggle with laws and regulations trying to be passed for or against this privilege.

Many of those find us using the bathroom of a gender in which we were not biologically born into as an abomination. A sexual perversion or an attempt to sexually attack members of the opposite gender.  We find these claims to be absolutely without merit and the bigotry behind it is paramount.

However, I have recently participated in a discussion on a website in which many transsexuals are doing the very same thing against crossdressers. The rhetoric and arguments they use against crossdressers and the bathroom issue is frighteningly similiar to what someone who is narrow minded would say against the trans community.

I've heard it all when trans try to reason why crossdressers should not use the bathroom in which they are dressed as. I even heard that CDs are only using the women's bathroom for sexual perversions. I heard a trans saying they will never let their daughter in the same bathroom with a CD for fear of what the CD may be doing in the next stall. Well, for starters, the CD is probably peeing.

I find it ironic and sad on so many levels how some trans people are doing the very same exact thing that a bigoted society is doing against trans with the restroom issue. The trans community has fought like hell (and still is in some states) to get the right to pee in the bathroom of our gender. And yet, some can easily point the ignorant finger of condemnation against a crossdresser when he or she needs to use the restroom.

Some trans will praise a CD for having the guts to go out dressed to a department store and then try clothes on in the fitting rooms, but these same trans will condemn those CDs who have the audacity to pee in the female toilet.

Have we grown this vain? This hypocritical? Where we cannot see the dreaded irony plastered across our foreheads?

There's an old joke that has lingered about for sometime and it has a hint of truth to it. "What is the difference between a Crossdresser and a Transsexual?"  The answer is three years.

There are some trans when arguing against CDs who uses the bathroom who convienantly forgets that they were once a crossdresser.

And some of us argue that Lesbians and Gays do not accept us? I think we need to work within our own circles first before crying foul.